In person and online sessions covering the UK. TEL: 07859332909
In person and online sessions covering the UK. TEL: 07859332909
I work with couples to repair trust, improve communication, and strengthen their emotional intimacy with each other. It takes courage to seek out a more fulfilling and happier life and to take the first steps towards a change. Here’s how I can support you:
Improved Communication I can help you both express feelings and thoughts more openly and respectfully.
Conflict Resolution Skills You’ll learn how to navigate disagreements without escalating into fights or shutting down.
Understanding Patterns Therapy can uncover unhealthy patterns and triggers that keep causing issues.
Rebuilding Trust If trust has been damaged (e.g., by lies, betrayal, or neglect), therapy offers a space to repair it safely.
Emotional Support You both get an impartial third party to help validate experiences and mediate tensions.
Strengthening Connection I often give exercises to rekindle emotional and physical intimacy.
Couples therapy can help if both partners are willing to do the work. Here’s how therapy can support you both:
After infidelity:
Creating a Safe Space I ensure conversations happen in a structured, respectful environment—where raw emotions can be expressed without turning into chaos or blame.
Understanding What Happened Therapy helps explore: Why the infidelity occurred (not as an excuse, but for clarity). What vulnerabilities or unmet needs may have existed. How each partner contributed to the state of the relationship before the betrayal.
Rebuilding Trust (If Both Partners Want That) Trust doesn’t return quickly—but therapy gives you: Tools for accountability (e.g., transparency, checking in). Boundaries and expectations moving forward.
Strategies for rebuilding emotional intimacy slowly.
Processing Emotions Betrayed partners often feel rage, grief, confusion, and shame. The unfaithful partner may feel guilt or defensiveness.I help both of you process those feelings safely.
Deciding What’s Next Not all couples stay together after infidelity. Therapy can help you decide:
* Is reconciliation possible?
* What would healing look like?
* Or, is it healthier to part ways?
Communication problems in a relationship:
Couples therapy can be highly effective for improving communication by providing a safe, structured space for both partners to express themselves openly and learn healthier ways of interacting. Here’s how it can help:
Identifying Unhealthy Patterns I can help couples recognise negative communication habits—like criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, or passive-aggressiveness—that may be damaging the relationship.
Teaching Communication Skills I can teach practical tools such as active listening, using “I” statements instead of blame, and validating each other’s feelings.
Addressing Underlying Issues Often, communication problems stem from deeper issues like trust, unmet needs, or unresolved past hurts. Therapy helps bring those to light.
Building Empathy and Understanding Therapy can try to encourage partners to see things from each other’s perspective, which can improve emotional intimacy and reduce misunderstandings.
Separation or divorce: Couples who are considering divorce or separation may seek out therapy as it can help provide clarity, guidance, and emotional support during a very difficult time.
Clarifying Intentions I let both partners explore whether they truly want to end the relationship or if they’re seeking change.
Providing a Safe Space for Dialogue Communication can break down, I can offer a neutral environment to discuss painful topics calmly and constructively.
Exploring Underlying Issues Sometimes the desire to separate stems from unresolved problems like resentment, unmet needs, or emotional disconnection. I can help unpack these issues and evaluate if they can be worked through.
Facilitating Reconnection (if desired) If there’s a desire to repair the relationship, I can guide couples through rebuilding trust, intimacy, and communication.
Assisting with Peaceful Separation If the decision is to separate or divorce, I can support the couple in doing so respectfully and collaboratively, especially important if children are involved.
Please reach us at wendyrussellcounselling@gmail.com if you cannot find an answer to your question.
It’s for all couples of all ages and at all stages of their relationship not just for those in crisis. Therapy for couples can resolve a current problem, prevent problems from worsening, or provide a “check-up” for a happy couple experiencing a period of transition or increased stress.
The therapist looks at each person and how their role in the relationship, difficulties, need and wants affects each other and the couple. A therapist is always a neutral party. Couples therapy can be a powerful way to change the course of your relationship so both partners can be happier in the relationship.
Couples bring a wide range of issues to counselling, from lack of intimacy and communication breakdown to trust, jealousy and infidelity issues. Family conflicts and difficult life transitions can cause problems within a relationship, as can work-related stress or financial problems.
Counselling isn’t a magic bullet that will solve a couple’s relationship problems. Counselling can help you understand yourself and others better, and offer tools and guidance, but it can’t change a person or a relationship if people aren’t ready to put in the effort and commitment. A therapist can guide and help you, but it’s the couple who must do the hard work.
The frequency of counseling sessions with Wendy Russell Counselling will depend on your individual needs and goals. Some clients may benefit from weekly sessions, while others may attend bi-weekly or monthly.